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Hate Hath No Rage Like a Man Discarded

Hate Hath No Rage Like a Man Discarded


“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,” was a warning I used to be introduced with rising up within the ‘50s and ‘60s. Today’s America has seen a shift, a lethal one on monitor for a head-on collision with progressive socio-cultural occasions. The brand new warning is “Hate hath no rage like a man discarded.”

All through the ages, ladies have weathered extraordinary indignities, heartbreaks, and suppression. Dishonored and damaged, they’ve risen from the anguish of traumas stronger, wiser, and tenacious—nonetheless nurturing, nonetheless supportive, nonetheless giving.


Many males, however, have grow to be fragile creatures of mythic proportions. Blinded by worry of the unknown, change and what they don’t perceive, they create bogeyman phantoms and garbled conspiracies prophesying the lack of all they maintain pricey.

They’re the epitome of what’s referred to as the “backfire effect”: when introduced with confirmed knowledge contradicting their understanding and beliefs, as an alternative of making use of essential considering, they entrench much more deeply into their quagmire of poisonous worry. They can’t be moved from their place, they won’t pay attention and also you turn out to be the enemy.


White male nationalism personifies this worry. What it devolves into is blinding frustration, anger and hate. It’s #1 focus of derision and detestation is any individual deemed aside from white (wholly of Caucasian lineage). With the arrival of the ladies’s motion, #MeToo, Black Lives Matter, LGBT and Native-American civil rights, and the truth that white individuals are destined to turn into a minority in America by the yr 2045, white male nationalists worry a noose is tightening on their demise. For them, “Diversity = white genocide.”

What’s superb about this attitude is how slender the white male nationalist imaginative and prescient is. They appear to have forgotten that it’s taken a melting pot of many races and nationalities to make America the nation it’s in the present day. It wasn’t all finished by white males alone. But, their worry is that their lives of entitled superiority over everybody not white, Christian and heterosexual are about to be declared inconsequential and subsequently discarded as irrelevant.

Apparently, they haven’t any grounds upon which to consider that is the story, however that doesn’t deter them from sinking into a quagmire of discontent. All they “know” is an overarching feeling that they’re being bullied, corralled, suppressed, oppressed, discriminated towards and disenfranchised. And we’re seeing their discontent performed out in nationalist propaganda, rallies, protests and violence.

What we’ve additionally been witnessing is their merging with the notion of white supremacy steeped in Nazi beliefs and authoritarian fascism. At coronary heart, all of it comes right down to wanting nothing to vary and each individual to look, assume, and act the identical—xenophobia mired in stultifying conformity.

“Hate hath no rage like a man discarded.” What meaning is that white male nationalists are feeling like they’re a dying breed of purists made out of date, worthless and inessential by advantage of variety.

Paradoxically, for all their outrage about purity, DNA outcomes are exposing shocking outcomes for these eager to show their “whiteness.” Regardless of their dismissal of the outcomes and discrediting the DNA lab course of, there’s no denying the arduous information—they’re not so “pure.”

It might be that the worry underlying the necessity for purity and superiority is way extra private: worry of being forgotten and judged insignificant. That specific thought is behind many a man’s striving for greatness, fame and standing. They need inclusion in historical past books—and never as a footnote. That drive could be very typically rooted in vanity points.


An ideal deal has been written about vanity. How one achieves vanity is derived in innumerable methods, together with constructing oneself up past what’s actual. Trying to dis-identify with emotions of low self-worth, a man can swing in the other way as a self-defense measure. If he feels persevering with and long-term stress on this space, he can intensify his protection mechanism to the purpose that he ultimately believes he’s being victimized.

Over time, protection mechanisms can develop into myopically and irrationally pushed. Slights, censorship and inhibiting suppression are perceived in all places. Finally, all elements of life are judged by way of this lens to the purpose of being unreasonable—besides to the person experiencing it. To him, it’s all very, very actual.

It’s fairly straightforward to see how a man experiencing this pervasive worry might really feel beneath siege. That to which he has been moored is now itself adrift in a sea of malleable actuality.

The conventions and truths he’s organized his life round, those that gave him a sense of significant comfortableness and realness, are dispersing into mist. Trapped, he reverts to the white nationalist trope of God-given superiority, domination, traditionalism, tribalism and traditional conformity.

However, as John Kenneth Galbraith said, “The conventional view serves to protect us from the painful job of thinking.” And that’s what a lot of the stumbling block right here is about: non-thinking. What we get is irrational reactionism, rationalized dogma, self-justifying victimization, obtuse righteousness and intractable fanaticism. This mix has created a entire new degree of poisonous masculinity that’s additionally transmuted into poisonous tribalism.

An antidote to this mindset feels very a lot out of attain: to interrupt down the defensive partitions constructed across the hearts and minds of males caught within the clutches of this calcified, fear-induced mentality. Makes an attempt to interrupt by way of have been met with inflexible stubbornness, regressive entrenchment, condescending dismissiveness, resolute denial, blind adherence to dogma and one-dimensional judgmentalism.

Regardless of this and the hostile polarization it creates, I consider it’s potential to interrupt via this mind-set.


To me, the important thing to unraveling poisonous masculinity—and by extension poisonous tribalism—is the melding of genuine communication with aware motion and respect. The inspiration supporting this triumvirate is fortified by belief, compassion and understanding. The enlivening sphere during which this dynamic happens embodies unconditional loving, serving and giving.

All 9 work in live performance with one another, an interwoven matrix of potentials, creativity and progress. They attraction to the deepest, most genuine a part of ourselves, that which understands our intrinsic inter-connectivity, immense worth and stylish uniqueness. It fears neither the unknown, nor that which is totally different and different.

It strives to transcend the minutia-driven, insatiable ego pushed by lust, anger, vainness, greed, and attachment. It as an alternative hears, sees, feels and comprehends with the guts, not the distrusting, simply deceived thoughts. It listens for the soundless voice of instinct and perception and seeks the very best in all issues for all of life.

“Hate hath no rage like a man discarded” needn’t be the continued story persistently headlining the information. Resist it, sure, however not in an “us vs them” standoff. As an alternative, select inclusion and communication by way of aware listening, motion and respect.

Pause, take a step again to realize a extra dispassionate perspective, breathe, settle your feelings. Permit probably the most elementary and important a part of you to be heard. That’s the genuine you, freed from the world’s convoluted, misbegotten guidelines and constraints. Select to be free.


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