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Three Different Stories, One Common Thread

Three Different Stories, One Common Thread

As I discussed in final week’s submit, I’ve been crisscrossing the nation recently. Not solely have I been to 5 locations in six months with work, however Paul and I additionally went to Nevada for an extended weekend. Invariably, somebody is driving me someplace in every of those journeys. And people someones have tales.

I study issues once I sit behind somebody’s cab, automotive, or van. You may recall my expertise with a cabbie final yr when a easy query resulted in a very distinctive dialog about his street to restoration from a playing habit and his path in the direction of serving to the homeless. These newer tales are like that, however totally different.

February 2018: San Francisco, California

On my approach to a convention, I took an Uber from my lodge to the Presidio overlooking the Golden Gate Bridge. Igor*, my driver, talked with me about on a regular basis issues, like the price of dwelling in San Francisco and the unusually chilly climate we have been experiencing at that second. We drove by the water’s edge the place runners with child joggers raced by within the chill wind. One way or the other, the Parkland capturing got here up.

On February 14th, 2018 seventeen individuals have been gunned down by a former scholar. It had been mere weeks because the occasion. As we each expressed horror, Igor, a younger man not removed from the age of the teenage victims, shared that he used to stay in Florida. In reality, he’d gone to Marjory Stoneman Douglas Excessive Faculty. He knew Aaron Feis, the Soccer coach whose physique shielded college students from the hail of bullets. I requested him, as gently as I might, how he was feeling.

“You know, it’s hard. It’s just hard. For everybody,” he replied. He didn’t appear overly emotional, simply bewildered. “How do we grieve for something like this?” I requested him.

“I don’t know.” Igor ran a hand by way of his hair. We spent the subsequent jiffy in silence. Not as a result of issues had turn into awkward, however as a result of I feel we each acquired misplaced for a second within the enormity of the factor.

March 2018: Las Vegas, Nevada

My husband and I awakened at 5 a.m to board the shuttle that may take us to our kayaking journey down the Colorado River. Brett, our driver, wore a fishing hat over his blond hair. The solar was not but up as we drove alongside the mostly-empty freeway in the direction of the clothes shop’s store. Brett informed us that’s the place we’d load up our provides and meet our information for the day.

Previous to boarding the van, Paul had paid eight dollars for 2 tiny coffees and a croissant for our breakfast. Whereas we ate our costly espresso and pastry we chatted with Brett about his life in Vegas.

He informed us he was a single dad, elevating three daughters. Their mother had left a number of years earlier than, and needed nothing extra to do with the women. I questioned as we discovered his story, whether or not the half-light of the early morning helped make confessions like these simpler.

He went on to inform us that his eldest daughter, simply 13, had been expelled from faculty a couple of days earlier than. She’d been caught with a water bottle crammed with vodka, which she’d provided to her buddies. Brett defined how she’d tried to lie. How she’d stated it wasn’t hers; that she was simply holding it for a good friend, and she or he hadn’t had any of it herself. However her dad knew the indicators of a hangover, and she or he had one the subsequent day. He knew she deserved the punishment. However what subsequent?

He requested for neither sympathy nor recommendation. I feel he simply needed to say the phrases out loud, to listen to himself converse concerning the challenges he confronted. Paul and I each listened. We requested what he deliberate to do.

“For now it’s no phone, no TV, no friends. For now, we’re just trying to figure things out.”

The typical age when American women have their first drink, I later discovered, is 13.

April 2018: San Francisco, California

A sinus an infection pulsed in my head, making me really feel barely woozy and sorry for myself. The Uber driver, James, patiently helped me navigate the San Francisco streets in an effort to discover his little automotive parked close by.

As Igor and I had mentioned again in February, the worth of housing in San Francisco and the encompassing space got here up in our driver-passenger dialog. James advised me he’d managed to construct just a little cottage behind his grandfather’s property, thus fixing his private housing drawback. However the two years it took to finish the paperwork, with research after research, allow after allow, made what ought to have been joyful–the constructing of a primary residence–a chore.

Subsequent, I discussed what number of homeless individuals I now see in California normally, and San Francisco particularly. I shared that it harm my coronary heart to see one lady cradling a two-year-old woman begging for cash outdoors the convention middle day after day. I’d watched as an individual employed by the convention helped a homeless man to his ft, “Sir,” he’d stated. “Sir, you can’t sleep here.”

Whereas listening to my story, James agreed the issues of homelessness have been solely getting worse. The price of housing was excessive, constructing new housing models was full of pink tape, and nobody appeared capable of see or tackle the underlying causes. At one level, the town had handed out tents. However then when the tent cities went up, the neighbors complained.

However there’s extra. James is aware of a person who works in authorities. From him, he discovered of an unintended consequence of the eco-friendly single-use plastic bag ban of 2016. “The homeless,” he stated, “they use their bags, you know, for their poop. Without the bags, they just do it on the street.”

“What?” my sinus-infected head had hassle wrapping itself round this one.

“Yeah. I had a passenger one day and we were stopped at a light and the guy in my car says, ‘Is that guy taking a dump?’ And he was. We saw this guy squatting between two cars and then he just walked away.”

In fact, poop isn’t what anybody actually needs to speak about on a experience to the airport. However then once more, when ought to we speak about it? The rise of human feces on San Francisco streets started earlier than 2016 however has sharply elevated within the final two years. Whether or not this reality stems partially from the bag ban or one thing else, I can’t say. However what appears apparent to me, and to James, was that the issue of human poop on the streets of San Francisco is a symptom, not the illness.

The Common Thread

Why have I advised you these three tales? Gun violence, teenage alcohol abuse, and homelessness contact us multi functional approach or one other. These good strangers shared their tales with me. Why? Maybe for a similar purpose, I’m sharing them with you.

We’ve got to speak about them. We will’t let what we’re seeing keep in the dead of night. The tragedy of human existence shouldn’t be that our lives finish, however that we don’t acknowledge ourselves within the tragedies confronted by others.

Every one among these tales exhibits a aspect of me: a bewildered youth, a heartbroken mum or dad, and a citizen helplessly witnessing the intersection between guidelines and actuality.

We’re all the identical. To do one thing concerning the issues of the world, we’ve got to see them as our issues, not another person’s. Solely then will we’ve got the desire to vary.

Your Flip: What tales have you ever heard from strangers or pals recently which have made you pause? Do you propose to do one thing about what you heard?

*names have been modified

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